〜てはいられない: Can't Afford To / Can't Keep (Doing) (Meaning + Examples)
When there's no time or leisure for it
〜てはいられない marks a state you cannot afford to remain in, because something more urgent demands your attention. It's less "I must not" and more "I don't have the luxury to."
試験が明日なので、遊んではいられない。
しけんが あしたなので、あそんでは いられない。
The exam is tomorrow, so I can't afford to keep playing around.
Time pressure forces a change in behavior.
ヤッタンは仕事が山積みで、休んではいられない。
ヤッタンは しごとが やまづみで、やすんでは いられない。
Yattan has a mountain of work, so he can't afford to rest.
こんな所で泣いてはいられない。前に進まなければ。
こんな ところで ないてはいられない。まえに すすまなければ。
I can't afford to keep crying here. I have to move forward.
Emotion gives way to urgency.
How it's built
Take the て-form of a verb (or verbal phrase) and add はいられない.
| Verb | て-form | + はいられない |
|---|---|---|
| 遊ぶ | 遊んで | 遊んではいられない (can't keep playing around) |
| 休む | 休んで | 休んではいられない (can't afford to rest) |
| のんびりする | のんびりして | のんびりしてはいられない (can't afford to relax) |
| 待つ | 待って | 待ってはいられない (can't afford to wait) |
締め切りが近いので、のんびりしてはいられない。
しめきりが ちかいので、のんびりしてはいられない。
The deadline is close, so I can't afford to relax.
Not a plain prohibition
〜てはいられない is about inability to remain in a state given the circumstances — it's not the same as a direct command like 〜てはいけない ("must not do"). Nobody is forbidding you to rest; the situation itself makes resting impossible. In casual speech, it often contracts to 〜てらんない or 〜てられない: 休んでらんない ("no time to rest," very colloquial).
モチが心配で、ヤッタンはじっとしてらんなかった。
モチが しんぱいで、ヤッタンは じっとしてらんなかった。
Yattan was so worried about Mochi that he couldn't just sit still.
てらんなかった = casual contraction of てはいられなかった.
The short version
- て-form + はいられない = can't afford to keep doing X / can't just stay in that state.
- Attaches to: the て-form of any verb.
- Nuance/register: circumstance-driven urgency, not a direct prohibition.
- Casual contraction: 〜てらんない / 〜てられない.
Practice it
Pick the sentence where circumstances make it impossible to keep doing something.
＿＿＿に入れるのに最もよいものを選びなさい。
納期が明日までなので、今は一分も＿＿＿。
Where 〜てはいられない fits
Shaky on this? Get these solid first
- 〜ている · N5 — 〜ている has two big jobs: an ongoing action ('is doing') and a continuing state ('is in a state'). Learn when it means which, how to form it, and see clear examples.
- 〜てください · N5 — 〜てください is the standard way to politely ask someone to do something ('please do…'). Learn the formation, the negative 〜ないでください, softer variations, and see clear examples.
More N3 grammar to explore
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- 〜というより — 〜というより(も) corrects one description to a more fitting one: 趣味というより仕事だ ('it's more like work than a hobby'). Learn the formation, the nuance, and how it differs from plain より.
- 〜際に — 〜際に (さいに) is a formal 'when': verb + 際に or noun + の際に = on the occasion of / at the time of. Learn the formation, the register, and how it differs from とき and 場合.